Hypnotherapy and Talking : 
If you are feeling lost or unsure of yourself or a bit ‘ stuck in a rut ’ may be I can help. I have written a few key points here for you to read which illustrate how I work and if any of them interest you or if you would just like to talk to me please call when you are ready. I will not rush you off the telephone and our initial chat will not cost you anything at all except your time which I hope will be a good investment for you.
Talking is a Connection and it is why we are all here. Connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives although often when people are asked what Connection means to them they end up talking about what disConnection is. In the same way, sometimes when people are asked about what Belonging means to them all they end up talking about is what being excluded is all about.……..about not belonging. People fear disconnection and ask themselves ‘ what is wrong with me that means I am not connected, am I not good enough ?’ and these feelings and thoughts are underpinned by a sense of Vulnerability.
There are two types of people whom we all meet – those people who have a deep sense of worthiness, love and belonging and these are the people who truly believe they are worthy of love and belonging and connection. And there are those people who do not because they do not think of themselves as worthy.
I’m going to ask you a question now -
‘Do you know what is unique about those people who have a sense of worthiness ?’
Well, it could be said that they are whole hearted people – they have Courage. Courage comes from the Latin ‘ cor ’ which means heart and these people have the courage to tell the story of who they are with all their heart. They have the courage to be imperfect and have the passion to be kind to themselves first and others second because we cannot treat others with compassion if we do not first experience it for ourselves.
These people have connections as a result of authenticity because they are able to let go of who they felt they should be in order to be who they are. They fully embrace Vulnerability – they believe what made them vulnerable made them beautiful and that what made them feel vulnerable, whilst sometimes being excruciating or painful, was necessary.
These people have a fundamental willingness to do something with no idea how it will turn out.
Vulnerability is the core of Fear but it is also the birth place of Creativity and Flare and Belonging. So why do we struggle with vulnerability ? Why do we numb it ? You can’t selectively numb bad emotions with cake, chocolate, alcohol, drugs or whatever you may think helps to ease the pain because in numbing the bad emotions you also numb joy and happiness and love. So we have another piece of cake or glass of wine and the thing goes round and round and round in a never ending cycle until something has to give and we finally stop and think and focus inwards for a while. We finally look closely at what is really and truly happening and break the cycle and once we understand more clearly what is happening we can start to work from the inside outwards. We can be honest with ourselves and move on finding and practising new coping strategies and not depending on old out of date maladaptive coping strategies that have not been serving us very well at all.
In our lives we often make uncertain things certain – this is right / that is wrong – and we do this because of fear and blame. We perfect everything and children are hard wired for struggle right from the start. Wouldn’t it be more helpful and healthy to accept instead that we are all imperfect and worthy of loving and belonging and connection. To let ourselves be seen and know that we have an impact on others. To let ourselves be vulnerably seen and to lean into vulnerability……..and to believe we are enough and that we are worthy.
The Process :
By talking together we can focus inwards. I use Neuro Linguistic Programming( NLP ) which is a proven technique with a long history of success. This will enable us to look at the strategies you use verbally and non-verbally and it will also help us understand how your brain stores and processes information.
I use Cognitive Behavioural Therapy ( CBT ) which will enable us to look at your thoughts and if necessary generate some more helpful ones for you.
It is possible to achieve lasting and permanent change using both of these techniques and if you choose to add hypnosis to them then real miracles can happen. In some instances change can be instant and in others it can build over time.
In either instance the process requires dedication and commitment from both parties – from you and from me.
You will never have to say anything that you do not want to say and whilst I will offer you methods to achieve the change you desire, the pace that we go at and the direction that you wish to go in will be totally yours.
I will always explain whatever we are doing carefully to you and if you do not understand it we will talk about it until you are happy. Only then will we proceed.
It is not necessary to include hypnosis as hypnosis is simply a ‘ tool’ that can be used to achieve the change you desire- there are many other therapeutic tools that we can use. The choice is always yours.
We will set short term and medium term and long term goals so that you and I are able to measure your achievements and the progress you have made.
If you would like to talk, call me. As I said at the beginning – I will not rush you off the telephone and there will be no obligation to book an appointment. Picking the telephone up is often the hardest part so when you are ready give me a call and we can find out where you are right now and take you to where you want to be in a way that is comfortable for you. I look forward to speaking to you.
Contact Fiona : 07968 106113
